BY: TheDuchess
It's easier to fall in love than to stay in love because the former is fueled by excitement, while the latter requires dedication and effort to nurture and grow.
We get ever so excited by the idea of falling in love. But why do we lose the essence of dedication and effort to nurture and grow that love?
Is the excitement due to fear of being alone? Novelty of someone or something? Why does the sparkle suddenly die and the effort to keep trying varnishes? Are we too busy seeing faults in one another, rather than building ourselves to better serve each other? Too busy idolising social media couples, unrealistic relationship goals?
Maybe we are too quick to run to ticktocks and reddits to talk about our partners rather than talk with our partners. We require higher standards than we are willing to live up to. How one deserves the pedestal and can't settle for less than. Too much emphasis is put on taking rather than giving, and when we give its with expectations of getting.
Perhaps in the midst of all the excitement we should remember the importance of communication, let's not forget to work on building emotional intimacy and trust.
Let's lose the media relationship goals and unrealistic expectations, ticktock and Instagram couple goals. How about putting our phones down and rather cultivate shared experiences to sustain and strengthen the bond over time. Better ourselves for one another. Then maybe; just maybe, we may stay in love.
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